7 ways to survive wedding planning
You’re getting married – yay!! Happy, happy, happy. Now you have a job to do –
Survive the planning,
so that you can actually
enjoy the wedding!!
Sounds simple? It should be, but often we over complicate things without realising. The good news is that yes, it can be fun, and no, you don’t have to become a Bridezilla.
Read on for 7 ways to survive wedding planning.
1. Be you! Obvious, right?
This is absolutely the number one thing to do and remember. You’re getting married to the person you love, who makes you laugh, who you want to spend time with, and share life’s experiences. REMEMBER THAT! So many brides (or grooms!) get wrapped up in planning the big day that they forget to involve their other half. Make sure you spend time with each other, talking about something other than menus and table plans.
2. Play hard to get.
There’s no need to rush into things. You don’t have to pick a date straight away, or steam into viewing venues. Take your time, and start by figuring out what’s important to you. What kind of wedding do you want? Small and intimate, in a local village hall? Huge and elaborate in a stately home? Availability at your preferred venue will determine the date.
Why set the date first, only to be disappointed if you can’t book the castle/church/hall/yurt of your dreams? And if they can’t fit you in for three years, so what? It gives you time to save your pennies. Don’t compromise on what you truly WANT because you think you NEED to get married straight away.
3. Don’t cling onto a dream that’s really a nightmare.
It’s easy for me to say this, but try not to rush into buying your dream dress – it may turn into a nightmare.
Some brides are blessed with a psychic ability to pick a perfect dress straight away. But most of us lesser humans need to be be prepared to change our dream. You may think you want a bone straight shift dress, or a strapless knee length delight, or a gigantic meringue of a frock. Be flexible. Try on lots of styles, rule out the ones you hate.
The one you love may be totally different to the picture you had in your head.
Listen to your friends opinions (boy, will they give them!) but stay true to yourself. What do you REALLY want to wear? If you yearn for something bespoke, you’ll have to get the ball rolling sooner than buying something off the rack. If you’re desperate for a true vintage dress (and why wouldn’t you be??) take the time to visit Vintage Wedding Fayres, and try on different things. Don’t just buy the first one that fits ‘because it’s vintage’. So many brides end up buying more than one dress because they jumped in too soon. If you hate dresses and never wear them, why start now? Go for a sharp trouser suit, or on trend seperates.
You need to feel like you
(only with nicer pants than usual.)
4. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
It’s easy to become obsessed when it comes to weddings. After all, you’re going to be judged by your friends and family right? WRONG. No-one will be judging you.
Everyone at your wedding is there to support you, and want to be there at the start of your new lives together. And if they don’t feel that way, why did you invite them?? Honestly, no-one will care what colour the napkins are.
Nobody will moan if you don’t spend hundres of pounds on favours that get left on tables. The day won’t be ruined if you don’t have the exact shade of chair sashes to match your bouquet (do you need sashes at all??)
All people will remember is you.
Image by Haywood Jones Photography
5. Smile! This is supposed to be fun remember.
This wedding shizzleis what you make it. If you’re usually a total control freak, you may find you elevate it to a whole new level of crazy. So right from the start, make sure you schedule in some fun activities in the run up to the actual day.
**When I say ‘schedule’, I don’t mean itemised, minute by minute planned shizzle – THAT AINT FUN!
It doesn’t have to break the bank. Expensive spa days are great, but not essential. It can be something cheap and cheerful that floats your boat. Just remember not to organise 16 different hen do events, and expect your mates to cough up the cash.
Nothing creates bad vibes more than a peed off bridesmaid.
6. Stand strong. Together.
I speak to lots of brides who have been coerced into doing something they don’t really want for their wedding. Families often think they know best, and sometimes they do. But at other times they really, really don’t! If your parents are paying for the wedding, or at least a part of it, you will have to give some consideration to their feelings. However, this is your day. Remind them of that (nicely). It’s meant to be a celebration of YOU, not them.
A well meaning person once told me I NEEDED a harpist. Erm, well no. Totally not me in anyway. No offence to the lovely harpists of the world, but that was never going to happen.
You don’t have to buy favours at all – you’re already paying to bring everyone together. You don’t have to have a free bar.You don’t have to have a sit down, 5 course meal. Have a BBQ, or sharing platters, or fish and chips – it’s YOUR WEDDING.
Now, re-read the heading of this section.
What’s the most important word? Together! You skipped that bit, right? Don’t forget that your other half, be they male, female, or a fabulous mix of both, has opinions too. They may be well hidden, but they’re there. They may not gel 100% with yours, but they’re just as valid. Let them have a say throughout (if they want to, don’t force it!) Let them pick the the music, or the food, or the buttonholes.
I can help them create some truly fabulous, bespoke buttonholes and accessories which will inject their personality into
the proceedings! Here are a few of my creations, each with their own unique story;
7. Remember it’s just one day! Look to the future.
This is something a lot of people forget – I did. After the whirlwind of the wedding, the excitement of the honeymoon, and sorting through the lovely gifts and cards there’s…….nothing.
Not a thing. Nadda.
I planned our wedding whilst trying to stop our 2 year old damaging herself in increasingly elaborate ways. Each night after she’d gone to bed, I would sit down with a glass of wine, and work on the bouquets, stationery and centre pieces. I was busy busy. I was a very happy pixie. Then it all stopped. Just like that. Gone. I’ll be honest, I got a bit depressed. More than a bit probably. So please, please make sure you have some things planned for after the confetti has been cleared away. You’ll need something to fill the planning shaped hole.
For me, it was starting Flipside Bride.
Which is truly AWESOME news for you!! Because it means I’m here to help you design the creations that have been living in your crazy beautiful head!
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